But let's back up. Ever since Grade 9 I have known that I want to go to university for dance. I've researched schools and learned about the application process. Before grade 12 I was excited about university. But now I am hearing about it WAY TOO MUCH.
1. All my mother talks about is saving my money for school.
2. My teachers stress about the importance of good grades for applying for schools.
3. When I jokingly told my Grandma that "I'm not going to university! I'm going to live at home for the rest of my life." She looked shocked and said "Kira, you mayen't (is that even a word, grandma?) do that. You'll never get a good job! And you know how much it costs to retire these days."
EXCUSE ME?! Now I'm worrying about my retirement? I haven't even graduated high school!
So could all of the adults in my life leave me alone for a bit? I'll think about university when I have to apply
That would be great. Kay thanks.
University scared the bajeezus out of me! All those seminars I went to, only to have how great a university really is shoved down my throat without getting any cookies or juice afterwards to clear it was a little overwhelming. And then when everyone says 'THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT DECISION OF YOUR LIFE AND YOU MUST MAKE THE CORRECT ONE OTHERWISE YOU WILL FAIL!', well, that doesn't help either. Also, university isn't the only answer. There are many people who use their skills to get great jobs, skills that they never acquired in college but just because they worked hard. But man, the build-up to college I could definitely do without.
ReplyDeleteDont worry we all know that you with do great the future is right around the bend though so we all need to start thinking about it. But who wants to the last year of high school is to be the fun year so go out and have fun.
ReplyDeleteI have been in that boat for quite a while now and taking a fifth year has not helped me one bit. It's very stressful to think about "my future" and like you, have constant reminders that I should have it all figured out by now. But after awhile, i have just listened to everyone's rants and it pretty much just goes in one ear and out the other. But since you already have an idea of where you are going, don't worry about it and just enjoy this year as much as possible. :)
ReplyDeleteHaaaaa! First, it is NOT the most important decision of your life. How can anyone determine that until the end, anyway? Crazy.
ReplyDeleteI only went to university b/c it was the safest place for me to be at the time. (My mom would have killed me if I didn't go.) Also, I had no real clue what I wanted to do, so uni allowed me to explore and learn and figure life out a wee bit.
There really isn't a "wrong" choice. The reality is that people are changing careers a few times throughout their lives these days, so the plan of having one ultimate career path isn't necessarily the best idea anymore.
My advice? Figure out what you like, what you don't like, have an honest sense of where your strengths are and investigate possibilities. Even if you get to uni or college and aren't happy, there are still more options. I hate that there is so much pressure on you all. I do appreciate where parents are coming from, don't get me wrong; I just think that when you've been working hard, doing well and have your wits about you, you will continue to create positive results.
There. My 2000 cents. :)
P. S. The "HAaaaa" part was not meant to be insensitive. It was regarding the retirement talk. My friends started talking about that the other day and I almost hurled my hot marshmallow at them. (We were at a campfire.)
ReplyDeleteI'm terrified to go to university... It seems like it's so close, yet so far away! There's so many decisions to make that will affect the rest of my life.
ReplyDeleteMy parents do the exact same thing! All they talk about is my future. And then when I don't feel like talking about it they get it into their heads that I don't care and that I'm going to fail. Mom and Dad, I just don't want to talk about it 24/7, calm down!
I can definitely really relate to you hear, Kira :) You're not alone!